Turning Pain Into Laughter Since 2011
“Once a cheater always a cheater.” I beg to differ.
Me: Could you take a chance and date someone known for cheating in her past relationships?
Stuart: At this point in my life, I wouldn’t take the chance. It would be a waste of time.
Me: What if she claimed to no longer cheat? Could you trust her? Or would it be too risky?
Stuart: Too risky. I like to look at people’s pasts to determine their futures. This may be unfair, but that’s how I do it.
Ouch. Well if a person’s future is determined by his/her past then no man would ever take a chance on me. I have cheated on basically every boyfriend I’ve ever had. There, my skeleton is out of the closet. I cannot really provide an explanation for my infidelity besides being young, selfish, and immature.
My last relationship was over 4 years ago. Since then I have grown a lot within myself, with my relationship with God, and with my relationships with the opposite sex. I now know what I want and what I do not want. And I recognized my own shortcomings in relationships and have made great strides to overcome them. With all that being said I still find myself having to answer for the mistakes of my past. I’m finding that some men have a difficult time accepting my “spotted” history.
There are many risks involved when startings new relationships. The biggest -I think we all can agree- is heartbreak. We want to avoid it at all costs. And in some eyes, choosing to date a former cheater is a huge gamble. But as any gambler would tell you, the only way to win is to stay at the table.
“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” (2 Corinthians 5:17) This scripture speaks about the ministry of reconciliation. We have been reconciled with God through Christ, with God “not counting men’s sins against them” (2 Corinthians 5:19). Following God’s example we should work to be reconciled with our brothers and sisters not counting their sins again them as well (not just talking about romantic relationships either).
So … am I worth the risk? Heck yeah I am! (Duh! lol)
So take a chance.
While on the topic of cheaters… Is going to the strip club considered cheating?
Until next time,