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Everyone watches porn, or has watched porn at least once right? Well I know ALL of my male friends (and the majority of my female friends) watch and they make no apologies about it. I once heard a former pastor of mine say that there was no harm in watching porn or masturbating. The real offense is the fact that the average person cannot do either without thinking about another person while in the act. That’s when the sin of lust comes into play. But for those of us, I mean y’all (LOL), that can watch porn without fantasizing about someone else, is there any harm in watching porn and engaging in a little touching of one’s self? Of course, if you’re watching porn all day, everyday then it’s a problem. SEEK HELP! That’s not healthy. But I do not believe that the occasional log on to Pornhub is harmful.
Let’s be real, we all have ‘urges’ and ‘needs’. If you aren’t married or in a committed relationship with someone you have an active sex life with, I believe watching porn is better than being a promiscuous THOT or a man-whore in these streets. And speaking of relationships, is it still okay to watch porn if you’re married or in an exclusive relationship? Especially if you and your partner aren’t watching together? So if you don’t have anyone to engage in safe sex with, how do you fulfill those urges and needs? Well, you learn what makes you happy and tingly inside by exploring your body while watching porn. The benefit of watching porn, or ‘learning your body through the art of masturbation’, is that once you enter a relationship with your life mate, you know what you like and you can guide them on what makes you happy sexually. That very thing can also backfire, in that you can become so use to pleasing yourself that you no longer desire the touch of another person. I’m not sure how that can happen because I have yet to discover anything that replaces the touch of a man, but it is definitely not unheard of. I’ve heard many pastors preach against masturbating, one even saying that God provides us with wet dreams so that we don’t have to masturbate. I personally disagree with that, but for all you Christians that hang on to every word your pastor says, that’s actually a good reason not to watch porn.
But a healthy sex life can be beneficial to your mental, emotional, and physical health. According to WebMD, sex not only feels, but it’s good for you.
Boosts Your Libido…Apparently having sex makes sex better. Women every time you have sex your vaginal lubrication increases, blood flow, and elasticity increases. Now that increase in elasticity kind of scares me, but not enough to deter me.
Improves Women’s Bladder…A good sex life is like a workout…an orgasm can strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. This is one that I’ll using in the future because I swear I pee like 20 times a day.
Lowers Blood Pressure…this is should be of particular interest to us black people, since many of us take in foods that are bound to elevate our blood pressure.
Counts As Exercise…in a world that is obsessed with being in shape, but too lazy to actually workout, now you have a fun workout to do to help you lose weight. Sex uses about five calories per minute. It bumps up your heart rate and requires you to use various muscles throughout your body.
May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely…According to the Journal of the American Medical Association, men who ejaculated frequently were less likely to get prostate cancer. Men, you should watch more porn!
Improves Sleep…what’s put you to sleep and provides a peaceful night’s rest better than good sex? Nothing that’s what.
So the answer to the question of whether or not watching porn makes you a heathen or sexually healthy is NEITHER! Pleasuring yourself does not require the same amount of energy and exertion as actually having sexually relations with someone. You don’t reap those same physical benefits. Now, porn may relax you and help you sleep better, but it can’t provide you with the emotional support you need and crave sometimes. If you are engaging in the act of sex with someone you love and are in love with, it is often about more than the physical act itself. Sex with the right person can make you feel beautiful, loved and protected. All feelings that are nourishment to your emotional spirit.
So whether you’re a regular porn watcher or an occasional porn watcher, you are not a heathen. You’re not very sexually healthy either…unless you’re a man, because you just need to ejaculate at least 3 times a week to possibly prevent prostate cancer. Proving once again that men have it so much easier than women.
“Daily penetration is medicinal.” Regina Hall a.k.a. Ryan from the movie Girls Trip
Until next time,
Kitta is an Interviewer and Freelance Blogger/Writer from Jackson, TN. She can provide blogging services for your business or product, and event coverage.